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Early Relationship Advice - Turn Dating to Relationship

What Is The One Thing That You Absolutely Must Be Prepared For and Able To Handle If You Want To Get From Dating To A Relationship?

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There is so much advice available on handling the early stages of dating and relationships. However, the most crucial piece of advice is often missing. This is the one thing that happens at some point early on in almost every relationship. If you can't handle this when it happens then you won't be able to move from dating to a relationship. Find out how you can be prepared for this event during dating by reading this right now.

Think about this. How many times have you been here? You're embarking on a new and promising relationship with a fabulous man. You just know that this time it's going to go somewhere. After all, the chemistry is so good. He seems to be really into you. You know he's "The One". And then, suddenly, without warning, he disappears into thin air.

When this happens, you probably get angry or scared. It seemed so promising and you don't understand what has gone wrong. You felt so close to him and now you feel bereft. You're at your wit's end. In a desperate search for an explanation, you text and call him or leave messages for him. You demand to know where he is. You're worried sick in case something bad has happened. You feel let down and abandoned. When you finally get hold of him you demand to know why he has done this to you.

Occasionally your dating may survive this event and it may turn into a relationship but usually it means the end of another promising adventure. But actually it really doesn't have to be this way.

The thing that you need to learn is that there is always going to be a time in your relationship when a man will withdraw. This is an inbuilt masculine trait and it is absolutely essential to the wellbeing of a masculine man. There are various possible reasons for his pulling away from you. Often this happens when he realises that you have moved from the dating stages into a relationship, if he is not yet ready for this. If you have been chasing him he will pull away to have some space from you. Sometimes he will withdraw to test your reaction. At other times he will be feeling stressed or need to concentrate on things going on in his life which are outside of your relationship. However, whatever the reason, don't panic. The only thing that you must know and be prepared for is that this IS going to happen and there is nothing you can do to stop it.

So, repeat after me and write this down on a piece of paper if necessary:

"I know that the new man in my life is going to pull away from me at some stage, and I am prepared for this. When he does, I am going to stay cool and calm and, instead of texting and calling him like a mad woman, I am going to hold myself back and wait for him to come back to me. If I stay composed and handle this well I can turn dating into a relationship."

You see, it's not the fact that he pulls away that means the end of your relationship. We already know that this IS going to happen at some stage. It's how you handle it that counts. If you can stay cool while he is busy doing whatever it is he is doing, and if you give him the space to get on with it, the chances are that he is going to start thinking very highly of you, especially if his experience of you up to now has been good.

So, the next time a man pulls away from you early on when you are dating, keep cool and calm and get on with your own life. Don't let your insecurities destroy your early relationships. Take my advice and keep this information somewhere handy so that you can refer to it quickly in the event of a future emergency. If you can put this advice into practice, then your relationships will go from strength to strength. Learn this and you too can get from dating to the fabulous relationship that you desire. May love and luck be with you!

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