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It is possible to get your ex back. Relationships break up for all kinds of reasons; sometimes love has gone stale or we have just stopped trying. In many cases the resentment has just built up to breaking point. Sometimes we walk away from the relationship out of desperation because we don't know what to do to get our needs met. Perhaps we don't really want the split but we know things can't carry on the way they are. Maybe our partner has left us and we've only just started to see their true value to us.

Whatever the reason for the split, it is possible to heal the relationship and perhaps to get back together again. However, this may take time and effort and you will want to make sure that this is the person that you really want to be with before committing yourself to trying for a reconciliation. However it is possible to save your relationship and get your ex back.

So, the first thing you should do is give yourself and your ex-partner some space. Time is your friend in the battle to win him back so don't feel that you must do it today! If you are arguing and fighting or acting desperate and needy then it's not going to make him come running back to you.

Firstly, take some time to think about the good and bad things that have happened in your relationship. Stop blaming and start to take responsibility for your part in the split. If you can't see that you played a part, then either you need to do some work on yourself or... what on earth do you want to get back with this person for?

If possible, have a break from contacting him. This should get him thinking about you and wondering what you're up to and why you have stopped calling. If you have children together keep your contact with him to a minimum and about the kids, just for now. In your little bit of space, take the time to look after yourself and make some new friends, or build up some new hobbies and interests. In the eyes of your ex, you need to start being a reasonable, humorous and interesting human being again. Allow the old "you" to reappear in his life, so that he can perhaps start to remember how good things were and what it was he liked about you in the past.

If you change your patterns of how you act and react with him, he will be forced to change his behaviour with you. If you are positive and constructive, it will make it a lot easier for the two of you to communicate in the future and perhaps give you a chance of starting again.

You have to forgive the past! Whatever has happened, holding on to past grudges is only going to hurt you and your future. Try and see that your ex partner is just a human being who is trying to do the best he can given the experience he has learnt along the way. He may not always be skilful in the way that he acts but if you think in this manner then you may find it easier to forgive.

Realise that your ex may take time to forgive you. Even if you believe that the relationship breakdown was completely his fault, he may be thinking that it was all yours. Don't pin all your hopes on getting back together; try over time to build up your life so that it is enjoyable and fun. In this way, whatever happens between the two of you in the future, you will have grown from the experience and you will benefit your future relationships by this.

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HOW DO I GET HIM BACK? - Bob Grant

Marriage Counsellor and Relationship Coach Bob Grant shares a proven formula for getting back your ex husband or partner if you have already split up.
>Click here to learn more about Bob's proven formula to get your ex back.

GET YOUR MAN BACK - Elaine M.D.
when he becomes distant, pulls away or breaks up with you

Relationship expert and bestselling relationship author Elaine M.D. presents her system to win back your man when he becomes distant or ends your relationship. The system claims to be the simplest, the best, and the most comprehensive easy to follow step-by-step plan on how to get your man back and make him commit!
>Click here for more details on how to get your man back and make him commit.

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